In Miss Wetmore’s Opinion…
Getting frank, thoughtful, queer sex & relationship advice is tough to find these days. It’s even tougher if you are kinda switching around pronouns constantly (or making them up) to adapt to hetero advice. New to GenderCrash.com, Miss Wetmore serves it up straight. Well, crooked, but with your perfectly-normally-bent sexual health and well being in mind.
March 2006
Miss
Wetmore’s
Sex Toy Buying Guide!
The adult industry boasts the biggest billion dollar business that ‘nobody
admits to knowing about’. With all the options, it can be overwhelming
to actually pick out a plaything to get intimate with. One thing you
should remember is that if you are already open to using toys, then
you’re ahead of the game. Often folks fear that toys are meant
to replace other humans and potential or existing relationships. Of
course toys cannot replace people (yet). I know you are just trying
to protect that precious sweetie’s self esteem, but isn’t
your orgasmic elevation more important? I jest, but really toys can
improve sex with yourself and with partners.
Enjoy the list of suggestions below. Even if you are not buying right
now, browse these amazing resourceful sites for sexy ideas and wish
lists. If you just want to learn more about all the toys out there,
check out Sex Toys 101 from the great women at Babeland.com
For a
basic toy that gives you a range of options, I recommend the waterproof
Velvet
Vibe from Smitten Kitten in Minneapolis, MN. This vibrator has a
soft feel on the outside, but is hard plastic underneath for a strong
range
of vibrations. It is slim enough to be comfortably used vaginally,
but long enough to entertain lots of happy vulva on the outside.
The controller at the base allows you to increase or decrease vibrations
for lots of options. Keep in mind this toy is not butt safe, because
there is no flared base for excited sphincter muscles to pull against.
For great anal play, try the Pro Touch vibe. This toy is made of high-quality
silicone, boasts a removable vibrator, and can be used vaginally or
anally for lots of good memories. Try gently massaging the anus on
the outside for a very relaxing experience.
The great thing about Smitten Kitten is that all of their products
are made of high-quality, safe materials. The staff is well-versed
on healthy sexuality tips and toy usage, and they do not sell jelly
rubber products, which can easily pass along bacteria. But don’t
take my word for it… Just ask the great people there for more
important info.
Check out www.smittenkittenonline.com
The helpful owner of Chicago’s best sex shop, Early to Bed, recommends
Insatiable G as a winner of a g-spot vibrator. This whammy of a toy
provides lots of stimulation, with an internal g spot dil, a soft,
textured vibrator for the clit and five different kinds of vibration
to choose from. It is made from silicone, which is a top material for
its ability to be sterilized and long-lasting performance. Check it
out at www.early2bed.com and see what other fun goodies you come across.
Now if you are looking for a hot way to strap down your partner(s),
I recommend the detachable Grip Cuffs from Leather by Danny. These
handy restraints are hand made of high quality leather and hardware.
The design of Grip Cuffs allows someone restrained to flex their
wrists and grip something, preventing discomfort in hands and wrists.
The
detachable version allows you to clip the cuffs and grips to a surface,
or detach the cuffs so that they can be worn individually. See more
details at www.leatherbydanny.com and
note the fine beauty of many different leathers. (*editor's note
- GenderCrash.com highly recommends Leather By Danny Products!)
If you live in the Boston area, there is a new option for women/queer/trans-friendly
sex toys, books and more. Good Vibrations, the mothership of all good
sex shops just opened their first East Coast store in Brookline at
308 Harvard St. The people are friendly and the store is a great place
to buy toys, get safer sex supplies or browse some yummy books in a
quiet, relaxing space. Also be sure to check out the lovely collection
of antique vibrators. See what your matriarchs used! For details, see
www.goodvibrations.com
If you live in New Mexico or have friends who do, there will be a fabulous
new store called Self Serve opening in Albuquerque in Fall 2006. Email
Miss Wetmore for details or to say hello…. You may be neighbors
soon!
For any other more detailed sex toy inquiries, feel free to ask. Miss
Wetmore is unfortunately addicted to sex toys and is happy to share
feedback and learn of new technological developments in the field…